My wife read to me a recent online conversation in which a women defended her two teenage daughters’ choice of pants. The woman said she and her husband would never tell their daughters what to wear and what not to wear, and if she catches anyone staring she gives them a piece of her mind: “Don’t you know she’s only seventeen?” I’m sure the embarrassed man thinks, “What’s it matter what age she is? I’m just looking at what is publicly on display.”
Some women wear such tight clothing for the express purpose of drawing the attention of men. I dearly hope (and expect) it’s usually not the case. The number one reason I have heard from women as to why they wear such revealing and attention-drawing clothing is that it’s the most comfortable thing to wear.
Let’s think through that logic. If it’s okay to wear in public because it’s the most comfortable thing, then I might expect to see many women walking around in their bathrobes and slippers. I have known a number of children who are most comfortable in their own skin…and nothing else, yet we expect them to wear clothing in public for some reason.
Using the reason “because it’s comfortable” is the same as saying “because it feels good” or “this is what I like best.” Has that ever been a helpful moral guide? There have been times when knocking a guy’s block off would have made me feel good. Why do we avoid drugs, alcohol, and promiscuous sex? After all, they appeal strongly to our flesh and make us feel quite nice at several levels. “Because it’s comfortable” turns out to be a motivation born of the flesh–it’s pure selfishness!
I challenge you to make clothing decisions based on a MORAL standard, not a “because it’s comfortable” standard. The first is based on God’s revealed will; the second is based on your selfish fleshly desires.
For speaking out arrogant words of vanity they entice by fleshly desires, by sensuality, those who barely escape from the ones who live in error… (2 Peter 2.18)
The word for “sensuality” includes the idea of lewdness, debauchery, and sexual promiscuity, but it is built upon the concept of license. In other words, we engage in sensuality when we cast off God’s ways–we feel we have license to do whatever we want. Notice how sensuality is coupled with “fleshly desires” in this passage. When we find ourselves defending what we wear with “because it’s comfortable,” we should recognize we are simply appealing to our fleshly desires!
Now the deeds of the flesh are evident, which are: immorality, impurity, sensuality… (Galatians 5.19)
Now just because something is comfortable doesn’t mean it’s sinful! But comfort must not be the driving principle behind our wardrobe choices.